There’s some truth to the saying “you don’t get a second chance to make a good first impression,” so being quick, prepared, and not overly scented are just some of the things to consider on Your first date. Here Sami Wunder, international relations coach and dating expert, shares her advice on how both men and women can make a great first date impression
Creating a positive and lasting first impression is an important part of a first date. Confidently presenting yourself to a good prospect is the first step in meeting someone and starting a new relationship. There are some simple steps you can take to take the stress out of meeting for the first time and present your best and authentic self when you date. This is how you can make a good impression, on a date and in any circumstance.
Arrive on time
You may not have done it on purpose, but being late for your first date is not the way to make a great first impression anyway. While most people will be polite and not make a big deal out of it, being on time shows that you care and take the person you’re meeting seriously. To ensure punctuality, I tell my clients not to program the actual time of the date into their smartphones, but the time they need to leave their home or office to arrive at the agreed time.
It will also help to build a grace time of 10-15 minutes into your calculations to avoid unforeseen circumstances such as traffic or parking. If you’re late, don’t pretend it doesn’t matter. Apologize right away and let them know this isn’t going to be normal, then go ahead and enjoy the date.
Dress the best you can and what is appropriate
While appearance alone can never keep a man or woman in a long-term relationship, it does give you an edge if you dress your best for your first date.
For men, I recommend a good jacket or blazer and shirt, even in the summer. It gives you a sleek and stylish look and a rugged first impression that women like. I can’t tell you how many of my clients complain that men show up on dates poorly dressed without caring about their appearance. A good shave is also highly recommended.
For women, a feminine dress, long earrings and open hair never go out of style. You don’t want to be “too sexy or revealing.” While that may add to your sexual appeal to men, it won’t help you build a real emotional connection with them. Both men and women should dress smartly and elegantly and wear whatever is appropriate for the occasion. Do not arrive in sandals at a fancy restaurant or enter a cafeteria in a party dress. Look fabulous but dress appropriately. YourChristianDate.Com
Pay attention to your perfume
Smelling good is exciting for both men and women, and an easy way to make a good first impression. If you take two minutes to put on your favourite perfume before you show up for the date, you’ll earn brownie points. But you want to be remembered for the right reasons, so don’t overdo it. If you overdo it, that intense smell of overspray can backfire and turn off your date instead of drawing them to you.
Skip the interview format and be adventurous intimate
Most dates don’t connect because they interview with the same questions each time: “What do you do for a living? What are your hobbies? Where do you live? What did you study?” While it’s normal to want to know some of this about the person, if that’s all you’re talking about, then you’re not connecting on a deeper level.
I recommend that you ditch the interview-style questions and instead ask yourself deeper, more thought-provoking questions that will make them stop and reflect: “What is your biggest fear in life? What makes you cry in movies? When was the last time you laughed and couldn’t stop? » Not only will it foster real intimacy, but it will also set you apart from other first dates you’ve been on recently and create a longer lasting first impression.
Both men and women set out to give the best impression of themselves, but most of us do it the wrong way. We talk and talk about ourselves from achievements to our family relationships, hobbies, work, travel, etc. Do not do it. Your date will feel turned off when all you’re doing is talking about yourself and not being curious about them.
This applies to both men and women. If you’re just talking about yourself and don’t show any interest in what your date has to say, you’ll be seen as a committed person and this is not attractive to anyone. The bottom line here is to talk about yourself, but make sure you stay curious and listen carefully to what your date has to say. Being genuinely interested in another person is an attractive quality to practice in relationships, not just on first dates and when it comes to making a positive first impression.
Do not go beyond two drinks
I don’t want to sound like a mom here, but this deserves a place on the list: Don’t go past the two-drink mark on a first date, no matter how much fun you’re having. First impressions are called first impressions for a reason and you don’t get a second chance to make them.
Amazing men and women can be particularly sensitive about how much their date drinks. Bottom line, when it comes to drinking, take it easy because first dates are all about making a mark. Stay focused on discovering who they are. Keeping track of this information will help you create a lasting impression and possibly secure you many more real dates. YourChristianDate
Allow yourself to flow
Keep an open mind and allow yourself to flow naturally on a date. If your date asks you to take a walk, go for it. If your date prefers going to an ice cream parlour to your favourite waffle joint, allow her the indulgence.
Too many times we can have rigid expectations about what a perfect date can look like. Having the ability to be flexible and go with the flow can be a powerful and attractive quality to display. It will also allow you to relax and have more fun when you don’t go into a date with preconceived notions of what it “should” look like, but flow with what it really looks like.